Fancy Acholonu, the ex-fiancee of actor Alexx Ekubo, is still furious as she spills more details about their unhappy union.
Remember how Alexx Ekubo’s sister dispelled rumours about her brother being gay by revealing that Fancy and Alexx had sex despite the former’s initial denial in a widely circulated audio note?
The US-based model did, however, address concerns about why she broke up with Alexx in a recent interview with blogger Stella Dimoko Korkus (SDK). Regarding their sexual experience, Fancy insisted that Alexx only had sex with her after they broke up, which she deemed to be an embarrassing experience, rather than during the five years they dated.
Read the lengthy interview below:
STELLA – Fancy I am Back to ask you more questions….In the last interview, you didnt want to tell why but I will ask you again, why did you break up with Alexx?
FANCY – Stella, I had several reasons why I broke up with him. Alexx is extremely narcissistic. The charming personality he shows to everyone was not who he was to me. Behind those smiles of our happy photos he was always lying, cheating, and gaslighting me. The day after we got engaged, it became worse. He then became more controlling, and verbally abusive. We argued so much and it was close to becoming physical, I was scared of his rage. I told my sister and documented for record sake in case anything happened. I can’t begin to give details of everything that went wrong for me to call it off. But one major red flag that made me devastated was that he told me he won’t sleep with me but I should go and sleep with other men. Imagine telling that to your fiancée that has kept herself for you for 5 years. At that moment I realized he didn’t truly love me. It started going down hill from there. Emotional abuse.
STELLA – Why did you make the Break up public? why not privately?
FANCY – I didn’t plan to announce I was the one that ended the engagement, I was under a lot of stress. I wish I used different choice of words. It was not my intent to hurt him or spark up controversy. I did ask him to make an amicable statement with me but he ignored me. When he doesn’t get his way, he gives me the silent treatment. Our wedding plans was so public, he was the one that chose the wedding date and announced it publicly so I felt i had to say something because everyone was buying tickets and preparing for the wedding. If Alexx was mature enough to speak to me when things were falling apart instead of focusing on looking perfect on social media, my public statement would have been avoided.
But I would have still ended things with him, but done it privately.
STELLA- There is a voice note of Alexx’ family member saying you lied and told her that you slept with Alexx in January but you told me that it was 5 years and no intimacy… Can you explain this please? You need to speak up, speak up and clear this drama.
FANCY – Stella i did not lie, i have nothing to gain by saying Alexx and I were not intimate for the 5 years we were in a relationship. While I was loyal he constantly cheated. He met me when I was inexperienced so I didn’t mind being celibate I just didn’t think it’ll take 5 years and that the person that insisted on it would be the one cheating.
STELLA – So this Intimacy the lady talked about when did it happen?
FANCY – We broke up in August 2021 and I blocked him. In January 2022 his aunt contacted me and asked if I could see him before I leave Nigeria. I agreed and unblocked him and he begged to see me for closure, I was hesitant but agreed.
When we met and Alexx confessed a lot of things to me and apologized for everything. Things got emotional so he attempted to be intimate with me for the first time. I was in shock, because he said his religion and journey had stopped him for these 5 years. But love was still there so we proceeded anyway. Before I could even land back in LA the next day he told me he told all his friends and family we had s#x.
It seems like the part he left out to them was that it was the first time we tried. It was strange to me how important it was for him to tell everyone around him. He even encouraged me to share with my friends and family. I believe he was proud of himself, but embarrassed at the same time that he never slept with me before. He wouldn’t know how to explain that to his people. The big question for me was, if “religion” is what kept him from doing it in the first place? When everyone is assuming I left because he’s g#y (which I never said) Why is he trying to be intimate now? It was Manipulation. He kept asking me how it was and i had to lie that it was great… I will not go into the embarrassing details of what happened.
When I reconnected with his family, I still kept this and more from them to protect him like I always do. But seeing as they’re trying to say I’m lying and defending him, I don’t even blame them because Alexx has been lying to them, he lied to me, and he lies to himself.
STELLA – You said something about him cheating and not being able to perform; how in heavens name did you know this?
FANCY – I caught him cheating on me with a curvy foreign women that even offered to pay him money for him to sleep with her. They spent the weekend in a hotel, and she was so angry he couldn’t perform with her so she found out about me on Instagram, and sent me screenshots of their chat exchange in which she called him names and questioned his s#xuality.
He apologized to me, and said at least he didn’t cheat technically because he was “celibate” with her. I was even disappointed he didn’t sleep with her to be honest. It would have at least validated some things for me. I should have left him then, but instead I forgave him and kept the relationship going because of love and Codependency.
STELLA – Alexx‘s family member in that voicenote which has gone viral made claims that Alexx was taking care of you in America : She said he paid your rent in Los Angeles and feeds you with $500 a month? And that your dad Is an Uber driver. Is that true?
FANCY – While modeling, I was a teacher for over 10 years until the school closed during the pandemic. Now I’m the top marketing director of a major company with my own personal businesses while I do modeling on the side. I’m generating over six figures a year with no support from anyone; so I’m doing very well for myself. My late mom would have been so proud of me. My dad owned the most successful transportation business in Nigeria back in the day, he brought his whole family to America where we were all born and raised living very comfortably in Los Angeles.
He’s in his late sixties now; healthy and strong so if he does Uber as a side hustle in the same transportation industry he knows. I don’t see how honest work is something to be laughed at by Alexx’s family. It says a lot about them, trying to discredit me as I choose not to share family secrets about Alexx that’ is a bit messy. As for the $500 a month from Alexx? For 12 months out of 5 years altogether he provided that to me, I didn’t even need it. I just wanted to finally feel provided for by him. I used the money to invest in stocks and teach him to grow our future family finances. Alexx was so impressed by the way I handle finances. The average rent in my neighborhood is $5000 a month. I’ve never needed a man to support me financially because I’m a career driven women. It would feel amazing to have a man support me one day, and i can’t wait for that, because I’ll grow the money for both of us. As they say, whatever you give a good woman she’s going to multiply it.
STELLA – Do you have proof of all these? like if you are challenged to bring forth evidence, do you have anything?
FANCY -I have proof of everything. That is why I’m speaking up with confidence. I wouldn’t speak without receipts, that would be careless. But I don’t think receipts are needed to be revealed unless there’s a defamation situation and defense is needed to be presented. I also know my family and friends are very upset with what Alex has put me through. They’re also disappointed in me and I understand: This is emotional abuse so they are sympathetic. they feel the need to share and encourage me to speak up and defend myself. I’m not used to talking too much and that’s why people think I’m talking a lot now. It’s because it’s the first time I’m finally using my voice, I’ve never been truly heard.
STELLA -Why did you even reconsider reconciling if he was so bad to you?
FANCY – Stella, that’s a question many people want to know and I have asked myself that too. With therapy and guidance I now realize It was just a trauma bond, with all of the control he had over me, the silencing my voice, and withholding affection, it made me long for the pot of gold at the end of the tunnel with him but at the end of the day it was just a mirage, nothing was real. Everything was fake. We had history together and, I wasn’t strong enough to let go, he wanted me back badly too but this whole thing was toxic. I’m very grateful to God that I’m free and I can now be myself again.
STELLA – Did he break up with you after you made the second apology post? and why did you make that apology post in the first place? why?
FANCY -No, we were never back together so he didn’t break up with me. I did it to help him, my empathy is so high when someone is hurting ; even if they hurt me I want to fix it. He knows this about me and took advantage. I left him again because we agreed to do the post. We wrote it together and verified with his family. We were working on this for months. It was taking long because I was hesitant and didn’t want to do it. He kept trying to convince me that it would be the only way we can come out to the public and or even be seen as friends publicly. If we were going to reconcile, I believed privately would have been the best, especially because I already made a public apology last August and we were finally becoming friends again.
I was not begging, it was mutual on both sides. I admit to reaching out more to him because his ego was bruised by me so I felt the need to comfort him. On a Friday he expressed he was feeling sick, so i decided to surprise him in Lagos.
We went to the hospital and i nursed him, we hung out and worked on this apology statement together. I kept trying to convince him that if I go public it might make things worse but he yelled, he begged, he pressured, and reassured me it’ll be fine and I trusted him instead of trusting myself ,now we’re in this public mess.
This apology post was a revenge plot by Alexx and I was too naive to see it. Alexx and his family know I’m a nice girl and he tried to take advantage of me because he thought I would never speak up and stand up for myself. This has been a devastating situation for me.
He went as far as telling me to leave the comments on and not put my location as Nigeria, he knew exactly what he was doing at that moment. His revenge plan was about to happen and I couldn’t see it. why? Cus in these moments he was telling how much he loved me and how he needed this apology post so we can move forward but deep down, he wanted me to feel the pain of being trolled and bullied. He wanted revenge on me for leaving him publicly. It was an ego fix. Once i clicked the share button, the scales fell off my eyes on what he was up to….
He changed in an instant. God spoke to me in that moment and asked me to test him by calling on him to see if he would protect me publicly from the brutal trolling i was receiving for throwing myself under the bus for him. Alexx said ”no, welcome to the club Fancy”. He said ”you should feel the pain I went through when you left me”. I asked again please are you going to at least acknowledge the post and he asked me what i wanted him to say and I kept quiet…
As I took the heat and trolls, which was something I’m not used too or felt I deserved, he started posting about his grandmas funeral, she passed away early April 2022, God rest her soul and was buried about 2 weeks before my post. Instead of Acknowledging me, he decided to post her burial and pretend he had no clue what’ was going on with me.
It reminded me of my August apology statement when I apologized the first time, the next day he conveniently posted the new apartment he moved into to make me look irrelevant and desperate for his accomplishments. It surprises me that I know the realities of his life and he continuously disrespected me because I’m a calm person.
I finally started to see the signs and patterns. As he was begging me behind close doors to reconcile because he felt he was getting old and wanted kids. He wanted me to appear publicly as a desperate person who wanted him back. It was all a game.
That was the answer I needed. I ended things with him again, and told him goodbye. He called me several times in fear as I caught him in something he knows about but I ignored him, I blocked him and I am not looking back.
He later on commented on my post which I didn’t even see until it hit the blogs.
It was a comment as if he didn’t write up the apology himself, he even chose the picture for me to post with that apology. That moment for me, the trauma bond was broken. Control was gone and I finally saw Alexx for who he really was. He is Evil, vindictive, revengeful and bored-line sociopathic. Of course we had good moments, it wasn’t all bad and He might not be like that to everyone but for me this was my experience and reality.
I want everyone to please note that I never in my life publicly called Alexx g#y. I would never out someone if they were; it’s not my place. My statement was everyone should find their happiness and live in their truth, i did not say his truth. That short and bold statement covered everything the lie that my relationship with him was the whole time. With my story you can decide whatever you want to believe about him or me.
My receipts are allowing me to speak and no longer be meek. I’m not trying to tarnish his image, I’m only speaking my truth because he wanted this public apology to trend and hurt me without telling the world the full story behind the scenes. What he did was cruel. I feel he owes me a series of apologies now but i doubt I’ll get that but unlike him I won’t pressure. This year it’s about loving myself, repairing my self esteem, being strong and moving forward.
STELLA – WOW…Thank you for granting me another Interview. Any last words? Would you reply again if Alexx puts anything out there again?
FANCY – Thank you too
I will not respond again, this has been draining for me and and i feel I’ve said enough, I am free and I can finally heal and move on.