Mary Remmy Njoku has gone after the gold digger label again, asking why a woman who enjoys a rich man’s kindness gets insulted while a crowd of men living off the same kind of money gets called loyal.
The ROK Studios boss put the question in one punch.
“If benefiting from a wealthy person’s generosity makes a woman a gold digger, what exactly do we call the 17 men eating his food, wearing what he bought, enjoying his money and calling themselves his boys?”
She used a man she identified as Emeka as the example. After he made it and came home, she said 17 grown men stayed around him. They ate his food. They wore clothes he bought. Their bills got paid. Their comfort came from his pocket. Nobody called them gold diggers. People dressed it up as brotherhood, networking and loyalty.
Njoku said the hypocrisy is not that people love money. It is the language.
“The double standard isn’t that people love money. It’s that when men benefit from proximity to wealth, we give the behaviour a respectable name. When women do the same thing, we give it a dirty one.”
She widened the point beyond dating. Men do it. Women do it. Friends do it. Relatives do it. Employees do it. People move toward whoever can make life easier. In her words, everyone loves gold. The fight is only over what we call the person standing next to it.
The post fits a week of blunt talk from the actress. Days earlier she had argued that many men struggle when their wives start earning more, and that a woman’s success should not shrink a man’s ego.
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This time the target is the public insult reserved for women who stay close to money.