Nollywood actress Dayo Amusa has sparked fresh debate on modern dating after weighing in on a viral story of a woman who rejected a dedicated suitor for over a year, only to cry when he proposed to another woman.
The story, shared by a woman on X, detailed how her cousin turned down a man who consistently sent her lunch, paid her rent, and showed serious commitment. When the man finally moved on and posted his engagement, the cousin reportedly began crying, claiming she was now developing feelings.
Dayo Amusa responded bluntly, dismissing the sudden change of heart.
“As a woman I can categorically tell you that your cousin didn’t just develop any genuine feelings over night, she is just angry that the perks and benefits that comes with the ‘fooling’ around of the man is no more…”
The actress advised men to practise self-awareness in relationships.
“And for guys, it’s very necessary for men to also have self awareness, once a woman doesn’t like you, it doesn’t take forever to know, you’ll burn your resources and gain a ‘bought’ or material induced love that is if you’re lucky to hit.”
Her comments resonated with many who shared similar experiences of one-sided pursuits, while others debated whether genuine feelings can sometimes develop over time. Dayo Amusa later reinforced her point, stating that women usually know early if they are interested. “Women know what they want from the beginning..” she noted in follow-up responses.
The viral exchange highlights ongoing conversations about entitlement, emotional availability, and the cost of unbalanced effort in dating. Many users praised Dayo Amusa for her straightforward take, with some men recounting stories of investing heavily only to be sidelined when the benefits stopped.