Nollywood actress Damilola Adegbite has told single women to stop accepting a man simply because he is ready to settle, and to pick him only if he is actually right for them.
She made the remarks on a recent episode of her podcast, posted on her YouTube channel. The 41-year-old said too many women treat a proposal as proof of compatibility, then discover too late that readiness is not the same thing as a fit.
“Ladies, don’t choose someone because they chose you. Choose someone because they are right for you; whether he’s younger, older or exactly your age, the question is always: Can we love, support, and build with each other? Because at the end of the day, we are not looking for numbers. We are looking for a partner. And if that partner happens to be younger, that is also fine,” she said.
The age line is the sharper part of the advice. Days earlier, on the same podcast, she argued that younger men are now openly pursuing women in their late 30s and early 40s, a group she said society once told to leave the dating market quietly. This week she warned those women not to mistake that attention for a reason to say yes.
“To the older woman, if a younger man is interested in you, please don’t make the mistake of choosing him because he makes you feel desirable. Choose him because he respects, supports, and makes you feel safe. Only choose him if he is emotionally mature and knows what he wants, respects your children and your life, and actually wants to build something with you,” she said.
The caution tracks with how she has described her own life since her first marriage ended. She has said she has met good men and turned proposals down because a partner now has to fit her child’s life, not only hers.