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Didn’t know I would be a victim of abuse- Monalisa Stephen
Content creator and actress, Monalisa Stephen has shared her experience of being in an abusive relationship.
In an interview with Punch Saturday Beats, she revealed that she didn’t initially recognise the abuse for what it was until it turned physical.
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“I’d heard other women talk about abuse, but I never thought it could happen to me. I used to think, ‘I’m a big woman, why would anyone want to hurt me?’ But abuse isn’t about your size.
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“I was dazed. The whole experience was unexpected and painful because I trusted him.”
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“This person continued to beat and humiliate me. When I confronted him, asking why he was doing this, he told me his friend advised him that women like me needed to be ‘bent’ to be dominated. That completely changed how I saw some men.”
Monalisa further noted that contrary to popular belief, public figures also face personal challenges.
