Nollywood actress and choreographer Kaffy has issued a powerful call for sweeping changes in how society prepares people for marriage, arguing that the current system leaves couples ill-equipped and often results in damaged children and broken homes.
In a candid interview, Kaffy expressed deep concern about the lack of proper education and screening before marriage. She stated:
“I was not educated enough for marriage and a lot of us aren’t, our parents are not preparing us enough, living through their eyes is not enough education about marriage.”
She compared the ease of obtaining a marriage certificate to the stricter requirements for a driver’s licence, noting:
“It is a special course that needs to be taken, we can’t have a society that issues you marriage certificate easier than drivers license like it’s harder to get the drivers license but it’s much easier to get a marriage certificate but it’s inside this home that all the ills of the society are being built.”
Kaffy emphasised the mental health aspect, calling for thorough assessments:
“There’s a lot of mental health situations and assessments that needs to go on. Its not only counselling that they should do. They should do mental evaluation of the couple.”
She proposed concrete reforms:
“It should be a mandatory requirement that drug test, mental evaluation, couples therapy, all of these things, there need to be a one year programme of human behavioural sciences that they need to go before two people come and damage another human being that they would bring to life.”
Kaffy’s message serves as both a personal reflection and a societal call to action, urging authorities and families to treat marriage preparation with the same seriousness given to other major life commitments.