Nigerian music superstar Tiwa Savage has opened up about the most vulnerable chapters of her life, revealing how motherhood, fame, and personal loss collided at the peak of her career.
Speaking during a recent episode of The Flow with Korty EO, the Afrobeats icon shared deeply personal experiences that many women face but rarely say out loud. From struggling to bond with her son to feeling like childbirth almost ended her career, Tiwa spoke with honesty that surprised fans and sparked conversations across social media.
I Didn’t Bond With My Son At First
One of the most emotional moments from the interview came when the singer admitted that she did not immediately connect with her son, Jamil, after his birth.
According to Tiwa, she had always pictured herself having a daughter, and the reality of having a son left her overwhelmed and confused.
”Honestly, I didn’t bond with my son for the first year or two. I always wanted a girl. They told me it was a boy, and I started crying”, Tiwa said.
Giving Birth Almost Ruined My Career
She explained that the emotional distance was made worse by physical changes after childbirth and the harsh realities of the entertainment industry. Tiwa revealed that her body did not “snap back” quickly, and the impact on her appearance cost her a major brand deal.
”My body didn’t snap back. I looked horrible. I was supposed to do a campaign with Pepsi and they turned me away. I just thought, this boy has destroyed me”, she added.
My Son, My Best Friend
Looking back now, the singer said those painful feelings have given way to gratitude and love. Today, her relationship with Jamil is built on love, friendship, and understanding.
“But now, he is my best friend”, Tiwa said.
She shared that what once felt like loss has now become her greatest source of joy.
I Want To Raise A Kind Man
The award-winning singer also spoke about how her past relationships have influenced the way she is raising her son.
“I always tell him, your mum suffered oo. Make sure you treat any girl like a queen”, she noted.
She said she is determined to raise a kind, respectful man, especially because of the emotional pain she endured in past relationships.
I’m 45 And I Love Saying It
Tiwa also addressed conversations around age, saying she is proud of how far she has come and refuses to feel ashamed for growing older in an industry obsessed with youth.
“I love saying I’m 45 years old. Anyone trying to shade me by mentioning my age? Nah”, she said confidently.
She shut down age-shaming with confidence, embracing every year of her journey. Her words resonated with women who feel pressured to shrink themselves as they grow older.
I Gave Too Much In Relationships
When the conversation turned to love, reflecting on her love life, the singer admitted that she often gave too much in relationships, a habit that left her emotionally drained.
“I give too much and they took advantage of it”, she said.
It was a quiet confession, but one many listeners related to deeply.
I Always Rise, No Matter The Fire
Despite the setbacks, Tiwa described herself as resilient, calm, and determined to always rise above challenges.
“Even if it takes me 10 years, I will get it done. A phoenix rises from its ashes and becomes stronger”, she said.
The interview has since sparked widespread reactions online, with many fans praising Tiwa for her honesty and for shedding light on postpartum struggles, emotional labour, and the pressures women face in the spotlight.
For many viewers, it was more than just an interview, it was a rare moment of truth from one of Afrobeats’ biggest stars, reminding audiences that behind the fame and success is a woman still healing, learning, and growing.
